Sometimes we hurt others and we want to make it right. You can be the better person and apologize. This can be uncomfortable and awkward for most people. This shows that you value the other person and want to make sure that there are no hard feelings.
You may feel like it was not your fault, but asking for an apology may be the fastest way to smooth things over and save the relationship. A sincere apology can can ease the hurt and go a long way towards repairing the hurt feelings. This is not always easy but here are a few tips that can help.
Saying The Right Things
Depending on how much you hurt the other person, saying sorry just is not enough. Your apology should be long enough to how sincere and honest your apology is. People can tell when you are not sincere about the apology. Often times this will make the matter worse.
Here are some things you can say:
- I am sorry that I hurt you.
- I want to apologize for making you feel that way. That was not my intention.
- Please forgive me if I hurt your feelings.
- I know I did you wrong so please accept my sincere apology.
- I hate that this came between us and for that I am sorry.
- What can I do to make it better?
- Can we talk to discuss our differences?
- Please let me explain what I meant.
If you start with one of these phrases, you are showing that you really want to make things better. Admitting that you did wrong is not as difficult as you may think. Most people will be open to talking about it and respond in a way that creates mutual healing.
When Is The Best Time To Apologize?
It is critical that you find the correct time to apologize. Do not choose a time when either of you are in a hurry. Even the most perfect apology will fail if the other person is not listening or is focused on other things.
The best way is to schedule a time to talk with the other person. Let them know you have something important to discuss with them. This will give you apology the best chance to be accepted. They can give you the time you need and you will have their full attention.
Be considerate of the other person’s schedule and work around their availability. Show conveys that you are sincere and honest about your apology.
Words can only show so much about your apology. You must follow up your words with action. Actions show more about your apology than any words can ever demonstrate.
Unfortunately hurt feeling are a part of any relationship. When you put yourself in the other person’s point of view, you can understand them better and your apology will show that you really do care about them. So if you really show how sincere you are with action, you have a much better chance of repairing a broken relationship. It can even make the relationship stronger than ever.
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